Every time I try to talk to my fiance', this is the response that I get from him. It may not always be verbatim, but it boils down to that one question: You want me to do what?!? Yes, sweet heart, I want you to pay attention when someone speaks to you, mainly me. I want you to spend one-on-one time with me when the house is empty. I want you to remember that while you are gone, "slaving away to make the money," that I am here, stuck in the house with two people who are almost entirely dependent on me being here. Free time? That is a concept that left a long time ago.
It's not like I'm asking him to throw the XBox away because hey, there's no way I would get rid of this beautiful contraption that sits on the table and allows me to basically say whatever I want, when I want. I wouldn't ask that of him, but is it too much to ask for him to pay attention? Why is it that when we speak to our men, the only thing they hear is the teacher's voice from Charlie Brown? I know for a fact that I don't sound like that, so why is what I'm saying so confusing? Besides, we all know that men will never win a fight when it's about communication. We, as women, fight dirty during that argument because we know, KNOW, that the majority of the time, they aren't paying attention to anything we say. And sometimes I will agree, it's better that way. We say something stupid and there's no worries because they didn't hear it anyway.
I'm not writing this post to put down my significant other. I'm truly not. I have two reasons for this: A) I want to find out if I'm alone with this problem, and B) sometimes I just need to vent! I can't vent to him about him, so what choice do I have? Okay, here's where I want some interaction from everyone! Tell me about your significant other! Let's have a true RANT here and we will see exactly what everyone out there deals with on a daily basis. No judgments...well....okay guys, you know there might end up being a teensy bit of judgment, but what they hey? Let's just see where this goes! I hope that people will take the time and let it out! Let's do this!
Why can't you vent to him about him? I vent about my man to my man all the time, and unless he's PMSing, he usually takes it pretty well, with very little back talk. LOL
ReplyDeleteHe probably takes it well because he's not paying attention. LOL Yes, Ruthi, I know the feeling. I tell James things, and he tries to say that he was listening, he just forgot. This is 24 hours (sometimes less) later. It's a man thing.
ReplyDeleteBut how long can we let them get away with the excuse that it's simply a man thing? They should be held responsible for the way that they treat the women they claim to love. Terri, you know that mine is sooo not trained, lol.
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